A fellow veteran once said to me: "You're such an accomplished woman." My actual response out loud, "Am I?" I wasn't being falsely modest. I genuinely didn't know. Because I don't think much about my credentials: B.A. in 2005—that was a long time ago M.A. in 2022—took forever to finish Military service—yet I never deployed to combat Building this business—we're still small Let me pause on that last one. Do you know the actual SBA definition of a "small business"? Depending on your industry, you can have 500 employees or make millions in revenue and still be classified as small. But I was using "small" like it meant "not enough yet." Like it carried shame. Being shameful and being humble are not the same thing. Humility recognizes gifts received. Shame dismisses value earned.

As an ambitious person, you may feel that you're carrying impossible weight. Your team depends on you to stay grounded when everything is falling apart. But the very traits that make you an exceptional leader—your drive, your standards, your refusal to quit—are the same traits that will destroy you if you don't learn to lead under pressure differently. This isn't theory. Webb's insights come from standing in spaces most of us will never face: midnight door knocks to tell mothers their child won't be coming home, crisis interventions with loaded weapons involved, leading teams through trauma that would break most people. What he's learned about why leaders fail under pressure and the proven strategy that prevents it isn't just applicable to extreme situations—it's essential for anyone leading teams through high-stakes uncertainty.